Feeling integrated means seeing your life as a complete, interconnected story. Every experience, every relationship, and every choice has led you to this moment. Rather than seeing your past as a series of disconnected events, you start to appreciate how everything fits together to create the person you are today.
For sure you’ve faced challenges, overcome obstacles, and celebrated wins—life can humble us all at different times. Each part of your journey has played a role in shaping who you are now. When you’re integrated, you’ve come to terms with your past, accepted it, and can now see it as a vital piece of who you are. You also let go of any shame or regret that might have lingered. You can even move towards self-love.
Feel Grounded in the Present
Being integrated isn’t just about making peace with your past—it’s about being present in the here and now. It’s about letting go of the fear or anxiety that might keep you stuck in survival mode, and instead, choosing to live wholeheartedly in this moment.
You can release the pressure of proving yourself, of always feeling like you need to do more, be more. You are enough, just as you are. You don’t have to wear a mask or try to meet someone else’s expectations. You can simply be you.
Living Aligned with Your Values and Purpose
One of the most powerful aspects of integration is being aligned with your purpose and values. This means living in a way that feels true to who you are, not based on the opinions of others or the pressures of society.
You’ll notice that when you live in alignment with your values, life feels less chaotic. There’s a sense of flow, and of ease. You’re no longer chasing external validation because you’ve come to recognize that your worth isn’t defined by achievements, accolades, or the approval of others.
Let Go of What Doesn’t Serve You
Part of being integrated means releasing what no longer serves you. This could be old beliefs about yourself that are rooted in scarcity or shame. It might be toxic relationships or habits that keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns. Letting go of these things creates space for the things that nourish and uplift you.
When you let go of what doesn’t serve you, you make room for self-love, self-worth, and deep compassion—for yourself and others. You start to feel more comfortable in your own skin, able to regulate your emotions and respond to life’s challenges with grace.
Healing and Embracing Your True Self
Healing is an essential part of integration. It’s about forgiving yourself for past mistakes, forgiving others for their hurts, and allowing yourself to move forward without carrying the burden of regret or shame.
This is where self-trust becomes crucial. You trust yourself to handle whatever life throws at you because you’ve done the inner work of integrating your past, your wounds, and your strengths.
You are worthy of love—not because of anything you’ve achieved, but because of who you are at your core. When you truly integrate your experiences, you no longer have to strive to earn love or approval. You give it to yourself freely, and as you do, you start to see the beauty in others as well.
Embodying Love in a Fear-Based World
Living from a place of integration doesn’t mean you won’t encounter fear, struggle, or hardship. What it does mean is that you can approach these challenges with a sense of inner peace and trust.
You can show up for others, contribute your unique gifts to the world, and still allow yourself to receive care and love from those around you. The world might feel fear-based, but when you’re integrated, you have the capacity to embody love, compassion, and kindness—especially when it’s needed most.
This is Why We Choose the Name “Integrate Counselling”
Each member of our team values doing our own ongoing self-development work to feel connected and aligned with our core selves. We’d love to help you move towards feeling more integrated in your life. Please reach out to book a free 15-minute consultation with one of our lovely team members.
